"Mr.Mixxy"
Mixxy, the mix, live, fake famous. All terms associated with being in the social spotlight. If people know you on twitter, they think they know you in real life. If people know you in real life, they expect you to follow them back on twitter. If you know too many people, they all expect you to be at their events on the same night. If too many people know you, they think that comes with a discount or free entry to anything you invite them to. (How you want free entry to MY BIRTHDAY party or CHARITY event?) What? Bye.
Any who, I’m here to talk about Mr. Mixxy today....
The popular dude that everyone either really loves, really hates, or has no choice but to respect for his influence/pull over everybody.
My close male friends have specifically asked for this post. Some of us have managed to score over 4 million in Temple Run, but either have no idea how to date or are afraid of dating the popular dude. I think it’s because we don’t fully weigh the pros and cons of dealing with his type. Let me try to dispel the myth that dudes in high demand are horrible people.I’ll tell you why I love Mr. Mixxy. There’s just something about a guy that everyone wants, yet he’s waking up to, calling, and spending time with YOU regularly. Something so special about a guy, whose aura just screams “I’m the man”, that finds a few hours out of his day to share stories with you about his life and let you in a little. Perhaps hold your hand while you stroll through the city, surprise you with your favorite flowers, takes you to the spa, etc. That’s dope to me. The best dude I’ve ever dated is a spotlight kinda guy. And to this day, I still love every bit of his confident demeanor and smooth mannerisms. Had the best dates and funny conversations and sex with him, especially because we had been friends for 5+ years before the rugdown (the nasty). Can you imagine all the jawns sweating him (myself included obviously), but he’s frolicking with me in the big apple every few days? Okay, I digress.
But with the perfect combination of aura, good character, and some act right, Mr. Mixxy can seriously melt your heart.
Guys in the spotlight tend to be the ones with the most experience and thus make better judgments when it comes to females. In the same breath, they can be the most judgmental. They’ve seen it all and done it all. They’ve messed up enough to know how to make things right. They’ve borrowed a few dudes’ girlfriends, a few of their girlfriends’ homegirls, and some other gray area jawns. They know all the date hotspots and creative ideas that will steal your breath away. It’s really about timing. Has he crossed all the crazy things he wants to do off his bucket list before he met you? If not, chances are he’s not seriously checking for anyone, and NO you aren’t the exception…my God.
Everybody’s always trying to be the exception instead of just being themselves
. Know that you cannot change him. However, if he’s ready for you, trust me you will never doubt him. They can be some of the most romantic and cheesiest people you’ll ever meet.Certain things you should already know going into a situation with Mr. Mixxy. Girls will be throwing their panties left and right. The mix will probably come before you in the beginning; so don’t feel entitled too soon. He’s not coming “home” to you if it’s just a house, or a freaking apartment even. Chances are when you met him, there were at least 7 other women in the picture and 14 in the waiting room. They don’t just disappear. Exposure is another thing. These dudes have been exposed to so much that each of them is looking for that one specific thing that stands out about you as well as any signs of red flags. Never underestimate that. Don’t do the bare minimum and expect to be recognized for things you’re SUPPOSED to do. You’re a woman. Cook, stay pretty, be supportive, and be funny! If he’s worth it, throw in something extra. That’s what he’ll remember you by. Most importantly, BE SECURE AND DEFEND YOUR MAN. Yeah, he runs into 400 girls per week, but he chose you. Yeah he did something dumb, but yell at him in the house, NOT on your timeline and def not in the streets. If you’re dealing with the right type of dude, he no longer takes all the pums thrown at him; he chooses selectively.
Know your position and play it well. Have you ever seen the janitor act like the CEO or vice versa?
Don’t lose sight of where you stand right now just because you’re focused on where you want to be later. You can get swapped out in any position. Side jawns get replaced too, ma. It’s okay to be a pinch of crazy, but don’t start texting your homegirls “That n**** talmbout he fell asleep at 11 last night. Who does he think he’s fooling?!” Ummmm Mr. Mixxy’s lifestyle is not easy. He might just crash one day. He needs sleep too! The last thing he wants is a headache over something that’s pointless. And if you know you won’t represent him well, don’t even bother. A man’s pride will be the death of him, but the pride of a Mr. Mixxy archetype is like no other. You think he wants a jawn that people usually have something negative to say about? No, because now his reputation is on the line.
Now, I hope the mixxy dudes reading this didn’t think they were going to get off the hook that easily. Yall have some trifling ways. Understand that yall are too damn spoiled. What you can’t get from one female, you can get 5 others to volunteer? Cool. This makes yall feel like every woman should break her back to keep you around when you haven’t even proven yourselves yet. As if we’re lucky to even have a moment of your attention. A woman is supposed to forget how dope she is because she knows there’s a line of ghosts of joints past, present, and future vying for her spot? Nope. Recognize her greatness, respect it, and reciprocate. It’s really that simple. Keep in mind that some low-key dude might be her breath of fresh air when she’s had enough of your arrogance.
A lot of you all are immature as all hell. If your last relationship was more than 3 years ago, you’re in the wrong f**king crowd. As Mr. Mixxy, you run into three times as many women as the average Joe. So you mean to tell me that out of ALL those women, NOBODY was good enough? Or was somebody good enough, but you just let her get away? You’re NOT that busy, every woman you’ve dealt with wasn’t that bad, and your life has to be the fuck together for you to be spending hundreds at the bar every week…..so what’s the excuse? What’s the joke, yall? Grow up. Stop curving quality chicks with these poor excuses. I just don’t understand why you’re pushing 30 and still in the young mix, complaining about hoes and foes. No, hoes don’t disappear with age, but the amount of time and energy you spend concerned with them should.
@Nettybynature said it best: Have fun searching for a Carfax when you’re 30 and still single.
A lot of yall were either forced to grow up too fast, or just didn’t grow up at all. And it’s very apparent because at 28, you’re still acting like you just turned 21. Every last one of you is NOT single by choice. A good portion of yall were left by a woman who was not trying to put up with your nonsense. Or by a woman who was receiving her favorite flower from the next dude because you were too busy being everybody’s favorite. So you can stop with the “All these hoes are the same” quotes.And if you don’t want her to be your girlfriend, then don’t treat her like she is. Too many stories of women being led on by Mix Prince Charming. If you’re at my house for more than 2 days consecutively, we go together. If you’ve had 2 meals in one day at my house, we…go…together. If we’re on the phone for more than an hour, yup you guessed it, we go together and you get emoji faces by your name in my iPhone. But if she’s your world, stop letting other girls feel like they have a shot at her spot. If the “wannabe” is too comfortable, the “already is” can’t trust you.
@PassportCutty said: A dude will always win because some jawn is always tryna prove to him why she’s better than his current girl.
I find that Mr. Mixxy usually has more trouble checking the wannabes. He loves that feeling of being the man. He wants to feel like he still got it. And that’s how he ends up being the mega that lost it. Don’t let that be you. Don’t let us find your insecurities and true feelings at the bottom of that last cup of Moet Rose. "Marvin’s Room" has reached full capacity, so please just get it right the first time around. Be honest and be flexible. If we can bend some of our rules for you, then you should be able to work with the headaches we bring too.All of this to say, the spotlight isn’t as bad as people make it sound. Some quality people are in these crowds. Stop judging or shying away, and get you one. If you get them, don’t sleep on the amount of work that needs to be done to keep them. It really isn’t for everybody. Nobody wants somebody that nobody else wants. But all the popular folk have got to realize that because of your status, it takes three times as long for a person to trust you, believe you, and let his/her guard down. Sometimes it’s not you that we don’t trust. It’s the people trying to sabotage what we have. And to my favorite Mr. Mixxy, thank you for showing me the way unintentionally. There’s a reserved spot for your whole chocolate being in "Marvin’s Room". I still have much to learn, but I’m out till next time.
- Davey Jones
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